QOTW: First Impressions
- Face/Makeup: 171 (46%)
- Outfit: 77 (20%)
- Hair: 60 (16%)
- Body size/shape: 59 (16%)
Votes so far: 367 Poll closed
Almost half of those who responded to this question said Face/Makeup... that's what I said too. I think we just naturally make eye contact with people, and if makeup is something you generally look for or create an opinion on- you're probably going to notice that. The remaining votes were pretty evenly split among the other answers- outfit, hair, and body size/shape. Perhaps this could be a slight reassurance to those who're self-conscious about their weight- it's not necessarily the first thing people see! Regardless of your feelings on this question, I thought I'd offer some "first impression tips" I found online- for a circumstance where you're meeting someone new (parties, interviews, significant other's famliy, school, etc.). They're not entirely appearance-related, but they might come in handy, and lessen your fears of meeting new people.
How To Make A Strong First Impression: 7 Tips That Really Work
Source: Bill Lampton Ph.D.
READ MORE ON EACH OF THESE POINTS AT: http://www.createmyself.com/personaldevelopment/makingafirstimpression.htm
- The greatest way to make a positive first impression is to demonstrate immediately that the other person--not you--is the center of action and conversation.
- You'll make a superb initial impression when you demonstrate good listening skills. Give positive verbal cues: Hmmm. . .interesting! Tell me more, please. What did you do next? Keep the exchange going!
- Use the name of a new acquaintance frequently. Example: Judy, I like that suggestion. Or: Your vacation must have been exciting, Fred. You show that you have paid attention from the start, catching the name during the introduction.
- Be careful with humor. Although a quip or two might serve as an icebreaker, stay away from sarcastic remarks that could backfire.
- Give up the need to be right. Confrontations with somebody you've just met will destroy rapport before you even start building it.
- Appearance counts. Don't dress for the job you have now, dress for the job you want to have.
- Speak clearly, confidently, and convincingly. Listeners judge our intelligence, our cultural level, our education, even our leadership ability by the words we select--and by how we say them.